Nope, he said, a husband/wife is not only not a biblical promise, it is also not a specific element of God’s “plan for my life.” God’s plan is for us to be made more holy, more like Christ… not marry a certain person. There is no biblical basis to indicate that God has one soul mate for you to find and marry. You could have a great marriage with any number of compatible people. There is no ONE PERSON for you. But once you marry someone, that person becomes your one person.”Having one predestined, predetermined soul-mate always sounded too fairy tale to me.
Eve Made for Adam
Genesis
2:20-25 “But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. So the
Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept
took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib
that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and
brought her to the man. Then the man said, ‘This at last is bone of my
bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was
taken out of Man.’ Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother
and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man
and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.”
A soul mate isn't someone you discover; it's someone you intentionally and prayerfully become.
I don't believe that society's definition of "soul mate" is healthy or
spiritual. It's great for the movies but no one's
marriage is like the romantic movies you've seen. Anyone in a successful marriage can tell you that "success" in marriage
doesn't come from finding that one person you were meant to be with. It
only comes from giving up the selfish behavior that served you while you
were single, and focusing on selflessly serving your spouse instead.
Nowhere in the Bible does God say anything about soul mates. God gives
us the simple details on how to have a great marriage: Husbands, love
your wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.
Wives, respect your husbands. Both of these are intentional acts of
selfless sacrifice that will guarantee us to have a happy marriage.
Most people don't like the idea of having to work for a soul mate. But
you will never speak with a happily married couple that will tell you
that they haven't had to work hard for the happiness they have together.
The Adage of soul mate has been spread my those that love themselves. As the bible says, in those times men will become lovers of themselves.. what other way can this been shown than to love yourself so much to the extent of thinking that out of the billions of people; there is one who was specifically made for you.
