Let Go Your Past Love, Refresh Your Future
If you are married to your first love you are probably one in a million.
Most of us have a long love story, decorated with lovely moments and littered with painful memories. Many have tasted the pain of being ‘dumped’ as well as inflicted the same pain on people we loved.
However ‘amicably’ you broke up losing a relationship that looked perfect can really bring you down. At one point one feels sad to have lost someone we really loved while on the other hand we experience the pain of betrayal especially if they ended the relationship or cheated on us.
However no matter how good he/she was we must learn to get over them, lest this past come to haunt our future. There are many single people today who are single because they are still looking for a look alike of their perfect ex. The reality is that there will be none like him/her. However there are many good people out there if only we cared to look beyond the veil of our past only that they are different.
Failure to get over your perfect boy/girlfriend could haunt your marriage later. Most marital affairs are by former boy/girlfriends. Since you had a connection rekindling the love is easy, all you need is an opportunity and the willingness to let your guard down.
A trend of failed relationships can make us give up on ever finding true love. Some people develop a trust resistant syndrome and own statements like, “all men are dogs,” or “all women are just after material things.” These generalizations have a way of crowding our judgment if we hold onto them. We tend to always interpret the world around us with the lenses of these generalizations.
Women who always think no man can be trusted tend to end up with men who cheat on them. This is because we get so obsessed with possible unfaithfulness that we push those we love to it. Secondly you never get to enjoy love since you are always on guard that he/she will do this or that.
Breakups always leave a foul taste in our mouth and if you have experienced it more than one the pain can at times get ahead of you. What is important however is that out of the experiences we can learn great lessons. The experiences make us better people and more armed to face the future.
Just like the person who had a memorable relationship, those who fail to overcome the nightmare of a sore love live in the shadow of their past.
Whether we had a good or bad experience we must get up from it and focus on the future. All men are not like your cheating or violent ex boyfriend. All women on the other hand are not like your gold digger or controlling ex girlfriend.
There are good men and women out there but if we remain chained to our past we are never able to love them as we should and receive their genuine love. We must break from the chains of our past love and build a new future and make it better using the lessons we have learnt.
Most of us have a long love story, decorated with lovely moments and littered with painful memories. Many have tasted the pain of being ‘dumped’ as well as inflicted the same pain on people we loved.
However ‘amicably’ you broke up losing a relationship that looked perfect can really bring you down. At one point one feels sad to have lost someone we really loved while on the other hand we experience the pain of betrayal especially if they ended the relationship or cheated on us.
However no matter how good he/she was we must learn to get over them, lest this past come to haunt our future. There are many single people today who are single because they are still looking for a look alike of their perfect ex. The reality is that there will be none like him/her. However there are many good people out there if only we cared to look beyond the veil of our past only that they are different.
Failure to get over your perfect boy/girlfriend could haunt your marriage later. Most marital affairs are by former boy/girlfriends. Since you had a connection rekindling the love is easy, all you need is an opportunity and the willingness to let your guard down.
A trend of failed relationships can make us give up on ever finding true love. Some people develop a trust resistant syndrome and own statements like, “all men are dogs,” or “all women are just after material things.” These generalizations have a way of crowding our judgment if we hold onto them. We tend to always interpret the world around us with the lenses of these generalizations.
Women who always think no man can be trusted tend to end up with men who cheat on them. This is because we get so obsessed with possible unfaithfulness that we push those we love to it. Secondly you never get to enjoy love since you are always on guard that he/she will do this or that.
Breakups always leave a foul taste in our mouth and if you have experienced it more than one the pain can at times get ahead of you. What is important however is that out of the experiences we can learn great lessons. The experiences make us better people and more armed to face the future.
Just like the person who had a memorable relationship, those who fail to overcome the nightmare of a sore love live in the shadow of their past.
Whether we had a good or bad experience we must get up from it and focus on the future. All men are not like your cheating or violent ex boyfriend. All women on the other hand are not like your gold digger or controlling ex girlfriend.
There are good men and women out there but if we remain chained to our past we are never able to love them as we should and receive their genuine love. We must break from the chains of our past love and build a new future and make it better using the lessons we have learnt.
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